A straight man’s manifesto for lovers

In which I stand against inaction…

I believe that men and women should be together, because love and sex can be among life’s greatest joys.

I recognize that as I search for love, or strive to be true to the love that I have found, I am engaged in constant battle. My opponents are the feelings that drive us to do nothing, and leave us to languish in our aloneness.

I will battle apathy and hesitation, which trap us in inaction. I will not honor the fear of what could go wrong, or the thought that doing nothing will suffice, while we all wait for a perfection that may never come.

I must have passion, resolve, and courage.

I will not give in to the false comfort of thinking that it could be okay to be alone forever.

I will grab life with both hands. Where I see attraction or chemistry, I will act on it. I will not fear rejection when I first speak to a woman, and I will not shirk my duty to communicate my interest with such simple, honest words as “I like you.” A good man is not stingy with his affection.

I will touch the women who I want, as friends touch. If they do not pull away, I will kiss them, and let that lead where it may.

I am prepared to love and lose. I will not fear the end before anything has begun.

I will not cheat. I will not steal the loves of others.

I must view my love as a gift, and to that end, I must strive to be a blessing on a woman, the hero of my own life story, and thoroughly a man of virtue.

This I commit to, for I have set my heart on love.

©Ben Hourigan, 2010

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Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-07-25

  • Heard a rumor over the weekend that iPhone 4 will hit AU on July 30. So where #
  • Heard a rumor over the weekend that iPhone 4 will hit AU on July 30. So where's the announcement? #
  • "Is it wise to tell a friend you have a crush on them?" -@lilithia | Yes. Or put it another way—it's a waste not to. #
  • My mum (58) wants to have a holiday in the city on her own for a couple of days. Recs on where to stay under <$100/night? #
  • I recognize the redundancy of "under <$100" in previous tweet. Editor fail. #
  • "@ECH0×3 we're all ignoring you…." | Ah, @Wasabi_Inferno , ever the joker… #
  • "@Wasabi_Inferno p.s. he is skinny and errr…white" -@ECH0×3 | The best kind of guy… #
  • Amazon: Kindle book sales overtake hardcover sales. http://bit.ly/ddPLbu (Yay! Stupid overpriced hardcovers…) #
  • Me: "Nothing personal, but can I just express my undying hatred for scrolling news feeds?" Media monitoring sales: "But it catches the eye!" #
  • My latest magazine article, on libertarian science fiction, online here: http://bit.ly/ceVRAH #
  • Now using Moleskine + Lamy fountain pen combo at work as well as for my fiction. Love it. Good stationery FTW. #
  • "I don't feel old." -@lilithia | You're not old! #
  • Just got purple pants in the mail. #
  • Access gmail from the terminal using Pine or Alpine: http://bit.ly/cvVJg0 #
  • FB gold from one of my fave people, @kylax : "I'm a rebel. I see a boundary, I eat it and wash it down with a hot steamin' cup o' rules." #
  • Inception was –––. [censored for benefit of @lilithia] #
  • US$50/yr Wikispaces subscription for corporate intranet: some of the best money my company has ever spent. #
  • Some more classic 20th-century literary fiction on #kindle today: http://bit.ly/aidXCc But I want Graeme Greene and Milan Kundera, dammit! #
  • Er, that's Graham Greene. #
  • Doh, keep having problems with Seesmic inserting bit.ly URLs twice. #
  • Just received some product photography that looks like the stuff is about to get eaten by the Nothing from the Neverending Story. Bad look. #
  • Hit his stride. #
  • Can we please never hear another politician say 'fair dinkum' ever again? #debate #
  • Gillard: "It's important that when you lead … that you lead." Yes, Julia, yes it is. #debate #
  • Men dislike Gillard, women dislike Abbott. Androgyny FTW? Prince for PM 2014? #debate #
  • Insight: Women like Abbott when he offers to give them money. #debate #
  • Now Gillard is saying 'fair dinkum,' too. Make it stop! Won't somebody think of the children? #debate #
  • What I would like to see is a PM who doesn't threaten to make me vomit when I hear them speak. #debate #
  • Julia: People who want to filter the internet are EVIL people. People smugglers are just trying to make a crust. #debate #nocleanfeed #
  • Wishes Julia had just said "I'll stimulate your mother's economy." #debate #yourmama #
  • Apparently Coles and Woolworths are the only large Australian companies Julia Gillard has ever heard of. #debate #
  • Snore. #debate #
  • Thank god that's over. #debate #
  • Now #debate is over we can settle the more important question of who will win #masterchef this year. #

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Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-07-18

  • RT @lilithia: "discovered on Youtube?" << Aside from Justin Bieber, do you know Zee Avi? http://bit.ly/bsE6Zn I love her songs. #
  • I respect property, but can't help finding the Barefoot Bandit a romantic figure: http://bit.ly/cbjy5l #
  • Came out to the living-room to watch #qanda so all the tweets piling in from my friends will mean something for once. #
  • RT @coljac: Tony Abbot's Vuvuzela. New meme. #qanda << Even now I know what a vuvuzela is, it still sounds like a dirty word. #
  • Do my friend Dave B. a favor and vote his animated cop show The Precinct 5-stars here: bit.ly/9BtRQz Or follow on FB: tinyurl.com/28dlcuc #
  • Too busy enjoying Sunday to tweet it—Beautiful and idle. Walked the Yarra to Richmond and back, then an evening of PS3 with my best friend. #
  • I should be in bed. #
  • http://twitpic.com/24sgac – (1) Here is the point. #
  • http://twitpic.com/24sh5p – (2) Press like this and turn head slowly. If right side of neck hurts, do it on left hand. #
  • http://twitpic.com/24sh5p – Your hand will feel sore when you get the point right. When you are pressing the point, turn your head slowly. #
  • http://twitpic.com/24sh5p – PS. If you fall unconscious to the ground, obviously you did it wrong. Good luck! #
  • Wondering whether the turpentine fumes invading my office are actually making me dizzy or if I'm just hallucinating it. #
  • Love this idea: analog twitter – http://www.boingboing.net/2010/07/12/analog-twitter-at-th.html #
  • "The new girl needs to know her fucking place." -@lilithia | Under your thumb? :-P #
  • Roy Lichtenstein theme currently at http://ma.tt | Very creative, but by god all those colors on the logo hurt my eyes. #
  • Going out to meeting. Offline for rest of day. Date tonight! :-) #
  • "Sent a calender & facebook event invite for my bday dinner to Lin. Anything else I should use?" -@ECH0×3 | Blackmail? #
  • "looking at my pictures with long hair, gee, i was a pumpkin!" -@ECH0×3 | I don't recall you ever looking like a pumpkin. #
  • Having fun getting in touch with my matches from literary speed dating @wheelercentre | So many interesting, book-loving people! #

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Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-07-11

  • The Google Chrome artist themes experience: http://bit.ly/2emLGb | I love the way Google's doing custom things with Youtube. #
  • A literary XKCD today: http://bit.ly/9yVnno #
  • Melbourne: a hard sell to outsiders, but it's their loss. http://bit.ly/allB86 #
  • LOVE the smh reference, so true!" -@ECH0×3 << You mean FHM? #
  • "no iphone, no music…=(" -@ECH0×3 << Last.fm? #
  • "person talking to the audience on ur site a gd idea? my 1st reaction, close the page and never come back." -@ECH0×3 << Why do you hate it? #
  • See award-winning Melbourne architecture on the AIA's new Google Earth layer: http://bit.ly/9vYjIp #
  • "Failed! :S" -@ECH0×3 << Failed what? #
  • "Thinking about leaving Twitter off my new business cards" -@KateKendall | A follow keeps you in mind. Site might just be a 1-time visit. #
  • "The second set sites for NBN have been announced http://bit.ly/cmKUjP&quot; -@DBCDEgov | Why don't you drop the filter while you're at it? #
  • "Conroy's dept has launched a Twitter account @DBCDEgov & asked for feedback. how long til clogged with haterz?" -@jonathonoake | About 4m. #
  • Post-masterchef 2010 prediction: Marion gets her own TV show, winner falls off the radar. Deja vu. #masterchef #
  • "Seriously – what book should I take to @wheelercentre literary speed dating?" -@lisadempster | How about one you wrote? #
  • "So last time I asked this I got no response… anyone else out there going to @wheelercentre speed dating tonight?" -@lisadempster | Yep. #
  • RT @lisadempster: Speed dating @wheelercentre – 12 ppl, 3 of who I already knew… << Pleased to be one of them. Feels like community. #
  • Watching missed #masterchef tonight. Thinking last season, found this: "Goat in Goat with Goat" http://bit.ly/aNPBXd | Heh. Thx, Chris B. #
  • RT @coljac: At least I came out of this with my dignity intact. http://twitpic.com/23zssi | Who did that? Not @ECH0×3 ? #

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Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-06-27

  • Interested to see that Twitter is now a better way to get important news (like that there is a gunman at MCG) to me than radio or TV. #
  • My brother just coined a new name for Docklands ==> Dorklands. #
  • Hopefully in 12 months they plan to no longer be The Ugliest Site In The Universe. #
  • RT @fexworldwide: @GideonH FB was the new MySpace. Is MS now the new FB? << Or is MySpace the new Geocities? #
  • RT @Wasabi_Inferno: @benhourigan Angelfire ftw! << Wow, I totally forgot about those guys. #

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Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-06-20

  • At lunch, finished the draft of my first novel. Triumph. #
  • RT @andrewbolt: ANDY MUIRHEAD IS GUILTY! << I see you have a firm grasp on the concept of right to a fair trial. #
  • RT @Wasabi_Inferno: @benhourigan what kind of novel? << Is that a glitch or are you just really keen to find out? I saw that tweet 5 times. #
  • RT @Wasabi_Inferno: @benhourigan what kind of novel? << Is that a glitch or are you just really keen to find out? I saw that tweet 5 times. #
  • RT @Wasabi_Inferno: @benhourigan what kind of novel? << General fiction. Contemporary romance with some intellectual stuff thrown in. #
  • Echo. #
  • Dammit, just when I tweet "Echo" for a joke, Twitter is working again and it doesn't echo. #
  • Dammit, just when I tweet "Echo" for a joke, Twitter is working again and it doesn't echo. #
  • Dammit, just when I tweet "Echo" for a joke, Twitter is working again and it doesn't echo. #
  • Oh, so NOW it works. #
  • Echo. #
  • Echo. #
  • Echo. #
  • Echo. #
  • Echo. #
  • Echo. #
  • Internal server errors are fun. #
  • "if sceptical secularism is to get a new lease of life, … it needs … more explanation and less indignation." http://bit.ly/d19v3r #
  • This Book helps you to move into the Digital era of awesomeness. Download it for free: http://bit.ly/4R9rth #
  • Unusual iPad article: Which Kiersey temperaments are more likely to buy iPads? http://bit.ly/aFPPqn #
  • Comic Sans: "Sorry I'm standing in the way of your minimalist Bauhaus-esque fascist snoozefest." http://bit.ly/bphJPG #
  • Enjoying an old blog header from 2005, "wherein I take on all comers in an epic battle of minds". http://twitpic.com/1xguy6 #
  • Has anyone out there used Doubleclick for Publishers Small Business? http://bit.ly/9llQyF #
  • Anybody know a freelance writer who'd be interested in subcontracting on an annual report? #
  • RT @fexworldwide: Avoided making a '…that's what she said' joke in front of family. << Sometimes I just do it anyway. #
  • RT @fexworldwide: Earlier this afternoon: Being productive while observing wildlife. http://twitpic.com/1xt1ya << Where? Love it? #

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Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-06-13

  • RT @ECH0×3: Dear Client, what makes you think having a freaky background music is a good idea? << Why'd you think any BG music is good? #
  • RT @ECH0×3: RT @fexworldwide: @Wasabi_Inferno @ECH0×3 Donkey Kong? <#
  • Just saw government's pro-mining tax ad. Having my own money spent so I can be lectured on why others should be taxed to buggery = vomit. #
  • RT @fexworldwide: The radio is playing Metalica. Time to get out of the office for lunch. << Depends what album they're playing from #
  • Anyone know a .NET developer out there who's looking for some more work? #
  • I wish I had one of these cool foldout balconies in my bedroom, and in every apartment I've ever lived in: http://bit.ly/aPKfl1 #
  • RT @ECH0×3: got some threadless tees …mood is slightly better…retail therapy works…well, sort of.. << What's wrong with your mood? #

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Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-06-06

  • RT @mariekehardy: Jack Johnson interviews as dull as his music. GW piece 'King of Cool' mistook c for t. << Wow, insults. Biting commentary. #
  • "Litany Against Fear": http://alcoman.railfan.net/fear.html (How many times have I posted this? No harm making it n+1) #
  • Dear Apple. Please approve @Issuu Mobile for the App Store so I can win an iPod Touch 64GB http://issuu.com/s/L7 #
  • RT @fexworldwide: This shouldn't be necessary to point out, but nobody should set anyone else on fire. At all. Ever. << Second that. #
  • RT @ECH0×3: Said no to the cup cake man, proud! << Is that like the pineapple man? #
  • RT @Wasabi_Inferno: Fosters runs out of asahi… (again) wtf? << Maybe it would fix it if Asahi bought Fosters: http://bit.ly/aS4yc7 #
  • In the grand tradition of all-day breakfast, I've taken to eating cereal for lunch. #

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Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-05-30

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